Ex. 8. Work with this quiz with a partner and check weather you see yourself as others see you

DO OTHER PEOPLE SEE YOU AS YOU SEE YOURSELF?

It is no good looking into a mirror if you wish to see the person who is really you. The only real test is to see yourself in the same way as other people see you. The following quiz has been psychologically developed to help you to do exactly that.

1. When do you feel your best:

a) soon after waking up?

b)during the afternoon and early evening?

c) before you go to bed?

2. How do you walk?

a) quite fast, with long, swinging steps

b) quite fast, but with short, quick steps?

c) not very fast, with your head up, looking at the world?

d) not very fast, with your head down?

e) very slowly?

3. When you are talking to people, do you:

a) stand with your arms folded?

b) stand with your hands together in front of you?

c) stand with one or both hands on your hips?

d) touch the person you are talking to?

c) touch your ear or chin or smooth your hair?

f) have something like a pencil or a cigarette in your hands?

4. When you are relaxing, do you sit with:

a) your knees bent and your legs together?

b) your legs crossed or wrapped round each other?

c) your legs stretched out in front of you?

d) with one leg curled up underneath you?

5. When you find something very funny, how do you react? Do you:

a) give a loud, appreciative laugh?

b) laugh, but not very loudly?

c) laugh softly, under your breath?

d) give a very big smile?

c) smile slowly?

6. When you go to a party, do you:

a) make so much noise as you enter that everybody notices you?

b) walk in quietly, looking for someone you know?

c) hope that nobody will see you walking in, so you can remain unnoticed?

7. When you are interrupted while you are working hard, concentrating on something, do you:

a) feel pleased to be interrupted?

b) feel very irritated?

c) feel neither of these reactions very strongly?

8. Which of the following colors do you like mostly:

a) red or orange?

b) white?

c) black?

d) dark blue or purple?

e) yellow or light blue?

f) brown, grey or violet?

g) green?

9. Just before you go to sleep, when you are lying in bed, do you lie:

a) flat out on your back?

b) stretched out on your front?

c) on your side?

d) with your head under one arm?

e) with your head under the bedclothes?

10. Do you often dream that you are:

a) falling?

b) fighting?

c) looking for something or someone?

d) taking your clothes off or with nothing on at all?

e) flying or floating?

f) do you dream rarely?

g) do you usually have nice pleasant dreams?

Now count your scores with the help of this key.

1. a) 2. b) 4 c) 6

2. a) 6 b) 4 c) 7 d) 2 e) 1

3. a) 4 b) 2 c) 5 d) 7 e) 6 f) 1

4. a) 4 b) 6 c) 2 d) 7

5. a) 6 b) 4 c) 3 d) 5 e) 2

6. a) 6 b) 4 c) 2

7. a) 6 b) 2 c) 4

8. a) 6 b) 2 c) 7 d) 3 e) 5 f) 1 g) 4

9. a) 7 b) 6 c) 4 d) 2 e) 1

10 a) 4 b) 2 c) 3 d) 7 e) 5 f) 6 g) 1

What it means:

Over 60: others see you as someone they should 'handle with care', vain, self-centered and extremely dominant. They may admire you and wish they could be more like you, but they are certainly afraid of you. They don't always trust you and hesitate to become too deeply involved with you.

From 51-60: Your friends see you as an exciting, highly changeable, rather impulsive personality; a natural leader, quick to make decisions (though not always the right ones). They see you as brave and adventurous person, someone who will try anything - well, almost anything - once; someone who takes a chance and enjoys an adventure. They enjoy being in your company because of the excitement you radiate.

From 32 to 50: Others see you as fresh, lively, charming, amusing and always interesting; someone who is constantly the centre of attention, but sufficiently well-balanced not to let it go to your head. They see you also as kind, considerate and understanding, someone who will cheer them up or help them out as the situation requires.